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Finding My Rhythm: How the Drum Found Me
· by Love and Willow
I didn’t go looking for a drum. It found me — in that quiet, powerful way that some things do, when you’re open just enough to receive them.
I was at a gongs and flumies training, completely immersed in the world of sound, when I spotted it — a turquoise drum, sitting quietly among all the other instruments. There was something about it that caught me straight away. I picked it up, gave it a try, and knew instantly: this one was coming home with me.
Not long after, I had the chance to have a private lesson with Dianne — a wise, grounded teacher with a deep reverence for sound. She showed me how to work with the drum in a way that felt intuitive and embodied. One of the most powerful things she shared was that drums have personalities — each one with its own tone, energy, and rhythm. She encouraged me to trust the drum, to listen to it like I would a wise elder or a friend. That shift in perspective changed everything. It’s not about “playing” the drum — it’s about being in relationship with it.
Since then, I’ve been finding my rhythm. The drum has become a grounding, pulsing presence in my practice, and I’m so excited to start weaving it into my women’s circles — to create a sense of grounding, shift energy, and connect us back to the earth and to ourselves.
What I’ve since learned is that drumming isn’t just powerful on a spiritual level — it’s also incredibly beneficial for the nervous system. The repetitive, rhythmic beat helps regulate our internal state. It calms the mind, slows the breath, and invites us into a deeper alpha or theta brainwave state — the same state we enter during deep meditation. It brings us back into our bodies, back into the present moment.
Drumming is also profoundly transformative. It cuts through noise — not just external, but internal. It clears energy, stirs emotion, and often unlocks something ancient within. Cultures across the world have used drumming in rituals, rites of passage, and healing for thousands of years. And when you play, even just for a few minutes, it’s easy to see why. It bypasses the intellect and speaks straight to the soul.
The drum is teaching me. And I’m listening — with my whole body.